Morals

Some things bother me. You know this more than anyone from reading these blogs i post.

I'd like to say a few things about some morals I try to keep up.

Be honest:
I try to be honest as possible with people, but sometimes it hurts peoples feelings. So, when someones breath is nasty, I'm no one to say "Damn, don't you own mouthwash?" or "Brush your teeth" or "Your breath STINKS!"- This is where my creative side comes in. I say it as calmly and politely as possible while still getting my point across... I have been known to "beat around the bush" when doing this, and asking for things. That might be a pride thing, but I'm not to sure. So, with the 'bad breath' scenario,  I'd offer them some gum, or something passive like that.
Don't get me wrong, there are plenty of times i say and do things without thinking, and it lands me into trouble, which then I have to ride out, or somehow weasel my way out of. I hate when situations come up where I cannot say it any nicer than it is. It bugs me, and then the "I don't want to offend you, but..."
If I am asked if I like your outfit, your hair, jewelry or tattoos, and I do not respond right away or at all, my answer is no. I do not. I'm not too fond of such dramatic, unexpected changes- it changes my happy little corner i like to live in, but then i become accustomed to it again, and see no issue anymore. I just think how it looked at first, and your hair cut looked funny. But now, It doesn't bother me because I'm used to it now.
So, if I stall when asked a question like that... I'm thinking of a way to articulate what I want to say. Which could be good or bad, especially when its phrased as a "What do you think about..." question. Well.... Your hair looks stupid. That piercing looks trashy, and your tattoo looks like something from a coloring book, as for your outfit, I'd have to ask if it was what was sitting on the top of the dirty clothes hamper. Instead,  "Not a fan." will be the least rude thing about it.

Respecting others:
Respect your Elders- It was pounded into my head as a child. "Yes sir, no sir, yes maim, no maim" I learned it and nothing wows other parents and fellow adults more when my children say it. I expect them to respect everyone they meet. Now, this is tricky, because several people DEMAND respect without giving it. I figure, you have to give it to get it, because no one respects anyone for anything nowadays. It fricking sucks ass. I respect my co-workers for who they are. Race, religion and beliefs do not affect that. The way they treat people DO change that. I hear about guys calling women "bitches" or "fine ass ho's"- And I'm disgusted about it. Whats worse, is these naive girls go along with it! If i spoke to any women like that at that age, the taste would be slapped from my mouth. These vulgar things are said to them and they spread their legs for any boy who says, "Damn, girl. You fine!"- then wonder why their "soul mate" runs off with a little hussy after telling him your pregnant at age 15. Total WTF to me.

SELF respect.
This is where my opinion will differ with MANY of my friends, but ill start with the above statement.
Some poor souls feel no love from anyone, and when they do hear those disgusting pickup lines like "Damn, baby you so fine! Lemmie get yo numbuh!" They giggle and give up their number? I haven't seen ANY woman fall for that shit, thank God, but still, the fact that some guys think they are all cool and shit, using improper grammar, and vocal spelling (its a real thing. Look it up. It's in the "Myktionary", and the "Myklopedia") and are surprised when they scoff, or laugh in their faces. They know your game, homie. Hit it and quit it. Not to mention, with that one line, they can visualize the stimulating phone conversation with you repeating "You jus so fine baby. For real. Lemmie just say, you SO fine! You sound fine! Now suck my d***, Bitch."-- ?!?! Yeah, who doesn't want that in a man? (sarcasm) - So- I have respect for myself in several aspects. One is I do not want to pierce or tattoo myself. This is my personal choice just as it were anyone elses'. My thing is, I don't want to have a piercing somewhere, and have it get hung up on something, and rip out. The idea of having another hole in me grosses me out. And the gauged ears, grosses me out as well. Most piercings do gross me out. If the person looks good with it, ok. But not me. The thought of being 90 years old with my ears dangling to my shoulders freaks me out. I also don't want a tattoo for a similar reason. I don't want to have a tattoo that no longer describes me as a 90 year old man... And if i did, id want it to be something i know will never change... I know what your thinking now.... Get your name. -Witness protection program, stolen identity? Then i have a name that isn't mine anymore... My wife's name? I don't know what the future holds, but if something happens... and that changes... Then what? My kids' names? What if my kid decides to get a sex change at 21? (Even though I'd respect his decision) I'd have the name of my ex-son, current daughter, who has a different name. A band I like? I could hate that band tomorrow. Favorite animal? I have a new favorite next year. Some things wont change. But id rather remember them in my mind and on paper than on my skin.
Don't get me wrong. I admire those who sit through the pain to have a beautiful work of art on their body. The artist who puts the effort in creating a living work of art- it is admirable. But those people who get a tattoo that means nothing, its just getting one to fill in an empty spot on your sleeve... please... Think about it before you do it. You can cover it up, have it removed... it isn't like an eraser on a pencil. It hurts like hell. (from what i hear)--

In addition to Respecting others,
I will not ask someone to do anything unless I would do it myself. If i wouldn't jump into that dumpster, I don't expect anyone else to.

Dignity.
I don't really know the meaning of the word, it could tie into self respect, but instead of searching for it and being accurate, ill go at it on my opinion of what it is.
I don't give a rat's ass what people think of me a lot of the time. I don't care. Until i come face to face with it directly, from someone i encounter on a (almost) daily basis. That's why i sugar-coat things when talking to people. I may have to deal with them tomorrow and don't want to deal with their whiny bitch ass any more than i have too. I have done some stupid shit just based on this, like jumped in a dumpster on several occasions, hurting myself (during the "self-destructive Jackass" phase) But i want to go another way with it. I'm not going to sleep with everyone who says I'm cute, I'm not going to give people free shit because they give me the puppy eyes, or pouty face. It pisses me off when people expect it to work. I say fuck you, if you aren't willing to work for it, why do you think giving me the "poor pitiful me" look will make me give up what i worked for? Bite me lazy bum. I work hard for what i have, which isn't much already. I have a family to provide for, and you want my money? Take food out of my kids' mouths?! Not a chance. Ill castrate myself before i take food from my kids mouths, or allow anyone to do that.... If i work for it, you work for it too. If your too lazy to work, starve.
When someone is speaking to you, you shut your mouth and listen. ESPECIALLY when you expect them to listen to you speak. Communication works both ways. If you cut me off, ill irritate you until you shut the fuck up and listen to the rest of the sentence. I do not interrupt people when they speak to me. (i try not to) some will all out interrupt me when I'm talking with a full paragraph response to the 3 words Ive spoken so far. Respect me, i respect you too.
I see people with vanity plates, and some are as creative as a color by number coloring book that's already been colored. 2FST4U- really? That's going to get you a hilarious rep at a club, and you aren't going home with anyone when they see that plate. Minute man. Lots of those are so stupid, and uncreative, - when i see one like that, i think of them as an inconsiderate prick with no life and a wallet larger than they deserve. Similar thing with tattoos, some people get some stupid thing that has  no meaning, just get a tat, to have a tat. Like it makes you hardcore. Uh, no... that cartoon butterfly on a 300 lb mans ankle isn't hardcore. Neither is that big ass word on your back in letters that are difficult to read. It looks like when you try to read a big breasted woman's shirt, and she gets pissed off because your looking at her chest. Well, if the text were easier to read.... I wouldn't have to STARE.

Understanding-
Before making judgment on someone, look at yourself. You are far from perfect. I know i am far from perfect too. Get to know someone before you decide you don't like them. Look at things in their perspective, see where they come from, feel their feels. I do this when writing scripts, and do this when listening to people talk to me. I try to see the world from their eyes, and sometimes i don't like it, but i still do it to better understand them. I think its a shame this isn't happening more often.

Trust.
I have a trust problem. I trust too much too soon. I don't expect to be lied to, because I try not to lie.
I mentioned this before, and my theory of trust: I trust people based on a dollar amount I'd loan them. In a way, i have had a base trust of $5. Now, i base it on $2. (which is the MAX I spend on a crane game) I don't mind losing $2 in a machine, nor do i mind risking it to see how much more i can trust them with. Some people I'd trust with $1, some $20. VERY few, I'd trust with my Debit card, car, wife AND children at the same time. Maybe I'm strange for that, but It works well for me so far. There are some people i wouldn't trust with a worn out sock....
When a deal is made, or a promise is made, I tend to be a man of my word 90% of the time. The 10% counts for the things i forget, the occasional time something comes up at the last minute...


I think i should apologize for some things being out of order, i wrote them down as they came to me.