When something has my boys in pain, I pretend to be a silly Doctor. There is a voice for different times of need, and sick, or pain comes this Doctor. He preforms zany operations with known tools but way-off names (like the dingle-hopper for example) the remedies are usually ridiculous and come with the same price. (fictionally of course) The point is, it makes them laugh, and the pain can subside for a moment, or longer. No parents want their child hurting, but we know very well it will happen.
They will bump their head, scrape their knee, catch a virus... it's inevitable. I know a little about pain. Much less than most people, but some.
When I was a young one, I got headaches and migraines a lot. Some felt as though a balloon were in my head. Sometimes I felt as though I were more of a burden to my parents during an episode. They never lashed out on me when i didn't make it to the bathroom in time. They understood. Which is a reason to understand the headaches my boys have, and when they "Blech", yes it's a smelly nasty mess, but these things happen. I sympathize with them about it because I know the feeling all to well.
I wouldn't have minded a silly make-beleive doctor giving me some goofy remedies for a headache... I kind of think, by keeping a sad, funky feeling person in the same mood, it feels like more of a pity party. Well, I say "Bring in the Clowns"
Only one person needs to be sad to bring in the rest of the household into feeling the same way. So, I, like the clowns, put on the fake smile to lift the mood of others, including the sick. As if to say that it happens, and there is no shame in it. Get well soon.
Maybe to a point... It can help rid a fear of the pain we may come to. We fear death, we cry about death, and no one shows up to a funeral as a clown. Very few feel comfortable telling a few jokes at one either. I suppose it is seen as disrespectful to the deceased.
We need time to mourn over our loss. I understand that. But would you want the last thing you hear in your life to be sad, or happy? Last thoughts, sad or happy? I'd want to hear something funny before i expire. I'd like to leave with a happy thought with my boys laughing with me and my wife. Not leave with the pain I'm leaving them in. Not like that.
Die happy, and live happy. Life is to damn short to mope around and feel sorry for yourself, or other people. Help people, yes cheering up is almost always needed when someone is down. But their are those times we do need to be alone with our thoughts. Those happy times we remember lift us up. Some people are those of solitude. I know I am. Others like to be around people in the time of loss. Not me. I don't like to hear all the sad "dead" talk. It's like trying to give a drink of water to a drowning cat. (Fuel on the fire) "They are in a better place"... I hear it every time. It's supposed to make me feel better? If they are someplace better, i kind of want to be there with them ya know? ( i know what that sounds like, but your wrong) They arent here anymore, and no one wants to get up on the mic and say something like "Looks like His wife will never have to worry about going limp again! Ba-dum-ching! Good bye Viagra, right?"
I'd crack a smile because maybe there is some truth to it. I wouldn't mind hearing a wise-ass remark before my soul moved on. No need to hear the "He was a good man, bla bla bla" Everyone is a good person after they die. They cant do anything now... If i was an ass hole, get up for a eulogy and say "Micah was an asshole. He was a weirdo, with a lot of crazy ideas. But dammit he gave a shit." I'd get it. So I wasnt perfect. Who is? I know im gonna mess up, we all do. I learn from my mistakes just like most others.
We need time to mourn over our loss. I understand that. But would you want the last thing you hear in your life to be sad, or happy? Last thoughts, sad or happy? I'd want to hear something funny before i expire. I'd like to leave with a happy thought with my boys laughing with me and my wife. Not leave with the pain I'm leaving them in. Not like that.
Die happy, and live happy. Life is to damn short to mope around and feel sorry for yourself, or other people. Help people, yes cheering up is almost always needed when someone is down. But their are those times we do need to be alone with our thoughts. Those happy times we remember lift us up. Some people are those of solitude. I know I am. Others like to be around people in the time of loss. Not me. I don't like to hear all the sad "dead" talk. It's like trying to give a drink of water to a drowning cat. (Fuel on the fire) "They are in a better place"... I hear it every time. It's supposed to make me feel better? If they are someplace better, i kind of want to be there with them ya know? ( i know what that sounds like, but your wrong) They arent here anymore, and no one wants to get up on the mic and say something like "Looks like His wife will never have to worry about going limp again! Ba-dum-ching! Good bye Viagra, right?"
I'd crack a smile because maybe there is some truth to it. I wouldn't mind hearing a wise-ass remark before my soul moved on. No need to hear the "He was a good man, bla bla bla" Everyone is a good person after they die. They cant do anything now... If i was an ass hole, get up for a eulogy and say "Micah was an asshole. He was a weirdo, with a lot of crazy ideas. But dammit he gave a shit." I'd get it. So I wasnt perfect. Who is? I know im gonna mess up, we all do. I learn from my mistakes just like most others.
A smile can do more help than damage. A laugh has ability to heal by lifting the spirits (among other medical reasons) There shouldnt be any occasion where a joke isn't welcome.
