I want to start off with something simple as a parent.
We teach our kids to be honest (well the good ones do anyway)
However, as a parent we tell them that Santa, Tooth fairy and Easter bunny magically find their way to our home and do sweet things. Right? (not all, but most)
this is good and bad. Bad because it tells the kids (when they find out whats-what) that it is okay to lie, after all. mom and dad and the rest of my family did it for ___ years... Why cant I lie to get them to do what i want?
Boom.
Good thing about it though, is it helps to conserve their innocence- By that i don't mean they never do anything wrong. I mean the ability to believe in magic, and anything they don't understand. When we don't know how to explain how Santa knows your in another state this year, you just say "he just knows" or "its Magic". Magic toy bags, flying reindeer, little fairy with a fetish for exchanging money for teeth, and a big rabbit that hides multi-colored eggs and leaves chocolate for you? Someone imagined it up. When there's no explanation for something, your thinking its either magic, or science. Well, Science is a form of magic.
it is a physical, chemical (bla bla bla) form of magic that has been theorised and tested for all the years of humanity. When our ancestors didn't understand the concept of fire, or anything else, they were not aware of the chemical reaction, only the "magic fire" that made meat taste better.
That is not the only form of magic. not in the least. When you do good for someone when they weren't expecting it- and seeing their total surprise, and appreciation- that is magic.
When your little kid cousin opens up their birthday present from you, and sees EXACTLY what they asked for- Magic.
Magic is everywhere, every moment of every day in one form or another.
And it is important for everyone to know that. When people say magic isn't real, i keep to myself, and pity them. Because ironically, their religion involves several magical stories within the book. (you know what I'm saying)
Now, as growing up being told their were these magic beings, i believe in magic, and all other supernatural beings, like ghosts, vampires, werewolves, and zombies, etc.
As a kid, Santa was real, but ghosts weren't. Why not?
So i chose to believe in it all anyway. I didn't find out the truth until age 16. And that's because it was assumed that i already knew. Needless to say, i was the only 16 y/o guy with a driver's license and job crying about this.
When i found out about it, i questioned EVERYTHING i was told by every grown up and told myself they were all liars, and i didn't want to be like that. But then i remembered something that was beaten into my head along with the make-believe beings. Religion, God. I questioned the existence, and shit hit the fan with the family. How do i know it isn't another make-believe thing? I don't. Blind faith. I have my beliefs, and I'd rather not state them as of now. You have your views, and you are entitled to them. The stories we read as kids get passed to ours, and our movies, music, etc... How funny is it when you hear a kid singing Vanilla Ice? Or Coolio? Or Quote something from Rocko's Modern Life? Read a Curious George book? Same principle of THE Book. Stories of many things, and magical things, are in it. Then I'm lied to about the existence of magic being real, but paranormal is BS, then later find out its both a crock. Magic in the book, if you say magic is bogus... well you can finish that sentence in your own mind.
I like to believe in something good in everything. So i tell my kids about magical stuff. Santa, Easter Bunny, and Magical elves that move around and do silly things while you sleep. I will not tell them magic is fake. I wont deny the existence of aliens, and monsters, ghosts, and werewolves, zombies, vampires, and all that stuff. Even in the possibility of time travel i feel is possible. Other worlds. I will not deny my children to believe in Magic, and paranormal, and the "impossible". I do not want to box them up, and keep them into reality so harshly, they become afraid to imagine something beyond this world. However, when i am asked a question, i answer as best as i can. I recently explained how light works to my 5 y/o, and he wanted to know more. We experimented with a flashlight, and he had a blast... Then he wanted to know how THAT worked, and the batteries, the light bulbs, electricity-- it kept going. I did the best i could, which was seemingly well from my own interest in the such. So he has an idea of what is going on when he flips on the light switch, or uses a flashlight.
My boys feet will be grounded, but never be afraid to look and play in the clouds, or the stars from time to time. The better the imagination, the better the success.
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Well spoken.
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